#8 Reasons not to have kids at your wedding
As promised lets end the week with a piece on why You shouldn't have Kids at your wedding (To find out about last week post on "if you need to invite kids to your wedding" click Here. Now i know this may sound odd to some of you, but just read through, you will get my point along the way.
Reason #1: Your venue doesn’t have room to accommodate additional guests
Inadequate space spells disaster. Trimming down a wedding guest list is difficult! Adding kids to the mix, even more so! Restless and exhausted kids will need room to breathe and roam. If your venue can accommodate a specific number of guests, best to stick to that figure.
Reason #2: You wince at the idea of kids running around during your wedding or babies crying during the ceremony
Meltdowns, running around, tantrums, screaming, and crying … these things are the stuff of parents’ nightmares. If the mere thought of it all puts you in a foul mood, don’t risk it. Weddings are supposed to be stress-free.
Reason #3: You don’t have any room in the budget for more guests
This is one good reason not to have kids at weddings. Kids’ needs must be respected. If accommodating them by way of an additional menu or chaperone isn’t within your means, then the prudent decision is leaving them out.
Reason #4: There aren’t even many kids in the family, and you don’t have many friends who have kids
Not too many kids in your circle? No problem! If you don’t have any friends who have kids, they won’t be as understanding as those who do. Best to leave them out of the festivities.
Reason #5: You’re having an open bar, and you want the adults to have fun without worrying about any kids
With kids in tow, guests won’t have the time nor luxury to switch the parenting button off. If you plan to have an open bar and want the adults to have fun without the worry, let them know in advance that kids aren’t invited. Give them time to make the necessary arrangements for a sitter especially if the venue is out of town. Alcohol and kids do not mix!
Reason #6: Most of your guests are local/in-state
If most of your guests live within a few minutes’ drive from the wedding venue, their kids don’t need to be invited. But do give them advanced notice that your wedding is an adults-only affair. They will still need time to make arrangements for a sitter until they return.
Reason #7: You’re not a huge fan of kids to begin with
No judgments here! Some of us just aren’t meant to be with kids. You don’t hate them, but you just don’t want them around on your big day. We get you! And we agree. If their presence will put you on edge, best to leave them at home.
Reason #8: Most of the kids that would be invited are quite disruptive and loud
Kids will be kids. If most of the kids that you plan to invite are disruptive and loud, best to leave them out of the list. This isn’t just for your sake, but for the other guests as well. Weddings are milestones with poignant parts. Tantrums and meltdowns are the last things anyone would want to hear when the bride and her father are having an emotional moment.
How to Tell Your Guests that You Won’t Be Having Kids at the Wedding
Being honest upfront is the only way to go. A wedding is an event that must be respected. And guests must be gracious enough to honor the couple’s wishes. However, do anticipate that an adults-only affair will most likely offend someone. To avoid animosity, be mindful of what you say and how you say it. Here’s what we’ve gathered from those who’ve gone the adults-only path…
In order to allow all guests an evening of relaxation, we’ve chosen our wedding to be an adult-only occasion. We hope this advance notice means that you’ll be able to share our big day and will enjoy having the evening off!
To give the adults the chance to let their hair down and have a good time, we’re requesting that this day be adult only.
While we love to watch the children run and play, this is an adults-only kind of day.
Although we love the kiddos, we wish for this occasion to be adults-only so we can all relax and have some fun!
Adult-only Event
No Children Please
Make our wedding a date night and leave the kids at home! We’re asking you to help us keep this an adults-only event.
Leave the Littles
Please note that this will be an adults-only event.
We respectfully request no children under 16 at this event.
Unfortunately, we cannot accommodate children—thank you for your understanding.
Due to limitations, this is an adults-only event.
We love your kids, but we thought you might like a night off. Adults only please!
Children of immediate family only, please.
Due to budget/venue restrictions, we’ve chosen to make this an adults-only event. Thank you for understanding!
Conclusion
Whatever kind of invitation you extend, keep a good sense of humor about it. If little Dara couldn’t keep her hands off the cake, don’t throw a fit. Simply have the photographer catch the moment. Should you decide to leave them out but end up with a small tiff about it, politely explain that it’s a decision you and your fiancé didn’t take lightly. And that you hope that they respect this wish on your big day.
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